When you discover that your partner has been unfaithful, it can feel like your world is ending. The first thing you’re probably asking is “why?” and what to know the reasons for their cheating. But no matter what those reasons are, you should know how to emotionally deal with this news so that you can learn to move on.
- Don’t Seek Revenge
Even after discovering the truth after putting your partner through an infidelity lie detector, looking for revenge isn’t going to improve anything. It will keep you in a state of anger instead of trying to heal. It’s best to keep the details private before you start telling everyone in the news.
- Accept Your Feelings
All of the emotions are going to hit you at once, and it can be a confusing time to get through them. It does take time to get through the pain, so don’t try to rush through the process or ignore how you’re feeling either.
- Take Care Of Yourself
Take as much time as you need to show yourself some love in all of this. It’s going to be stressful, and that can take a toll on your mental and physical health.
- Leave The Children Out Of It
If there are children involved, don’t get them involved. They have nothing to do with what’s going on between you and your partner, and involving them can only make things more confusing and painful for them.
- Don’t Point Fingers
It can be easy to do the blame game, but it won’t change anything. Don’t play the victim either, if you can help it. Doing so will only make you feel more helpless and bad about yourself instead of looking towards healing.
- Get Practical
Look at the matter practically and see what needs to be done in the future if you decide that you want to leave. Can you afford to leave or do you think the relationship can be salvaged? What’s going to happen financially if you decide to leave? If there are children involved, what’s going to happen to them?
- Seek Counseling
It wouldn’t hurt to consider couples counseling to get to the root of the problem and see if there’s anything left of the relationship that’s worth saving. Having a counselor provides you both with a space where you can share your feelings without losing your cool.
- Taking It One Day At A Time
Don’t rush the process, thinking that it will help you feel better faster. You will have good days and you’ll have bad days, so it’s important to take each day as it comes. Once you’ve dealt with all of the emotions, you’ll see the clear path you need to move on to the next phase of your life.
Hearing that your partner has been unfaithful will make it difficult to cope with the rest of things going on in your life, so it’s important to take time for yourself. If you do need to talk to someone, feel free to speak to your healthcare provider who might be able to help you find a counselor or another mental health professional to keep you grounded.
